How much should I shampoo/wet my hair a week? (What's your hair type and shower hair routine?)by SerendipityPosted 4 years, 11 months ago
I know this is probably something silly but sadly it's something I struggle with. I'm still experimenting to find out what kind of shower routine works best with my hair. I used to have silky straight hair as a kid but after puberty it got wavy and it's coarse. Yes, it's ridiculously prone to those little frizzies and flyaways. I have this weird OCD where I feel dirty if I don't shampoo my hair on a daily basis after wetting it (it will be something that will be on my mind until my next wash). Of course that leads to drying out my hair. Since a few years ago I have been alternating days. My hair looks and feels great dry after it's been washed that day, however, the next day when I wet it without shampooing, after it dries it looks greasy and weird. So then for the past year I've been washing my hair every other day while not wetting my hair by keeping it up and away from water on non hair wetting days. The hair feels and looks much better (while not appearing greasy) than if I had just wet it and air dried. It's incredible how my hair doesn't manage to look overdried in general at this point or unhealthy with my every other shampoo method since I know I'm overwashing. I know my hair is capable of going more days without washes, it's just my bad OCD that makes me feel dirty keeping me from having nicer and healthier hair (if anyone has any suggestion on breaking this, do tell). As of recent, I've been trying to shampoo and condition day 1, not wet hair at all day 2, and co-wash day 3 (which isn't working because it requires wetting hair, so after it dries it looks greasy and weighed at the crown). I just can't find a working method! I don't want to have to keep my hair up without wetting it for days so it looks better, what if it accumulates smell or something weird lol. Why does my hair look greasy and much frizzier after wetting it with water? Is it even possible to be sensitive to wetting hair simply with water because it messes up the natural hair oil balance or somehow strips it? Am I not rinsing right or something lol. What's wrong with my hair! I have that common Asian type hair. What on earth do people with nice hair do? Detailed hair routines before/during/after showers would greatly help!
by KenniiPosted 4 years, 11 months ago
I'm sorry I can't give you advice about the water problem. I've never heard of anything like that, particularly on asian hair. But I will still try and give you some advice.
So my natural virgin hair is straight and very smooth. (I'm part japanese so while my hair isn't super thick and springy like most asian hair, it's still smooth, straight and heavy and lies quite flat on my head naturally.) As for hair thickness and density, I'd say I'm about average. My hair is not too oily an not too dry.
I found the less I washed my hair, the less quickly it got greasy. When I was around 12 I'd only wash my hair a couple of times a week and my hair probably wouldn't end up showing much grease until day 4 or 5. Then as I got older I became more fussy about grease and making sure my hair looked good so I began washing every other day. Then eventually I was fed up with having such high maintenance hair (I used to have one length hair down to my hips, so washing and blow drying every other day was such a pain) so I tried to slowly wash my hair less and less.
Now I have bleach blonde hair and I only wash my hair every 5-7 days. After I bleach my roots I co wash with cone free Condtioner for a while, and then switch to shampoo when my roots have grown out about a cm.
For me personally, I find the less I wash my hair, and the gentler the method of washing I use, the less greasy my hair gets as often. Sometimes I also use dry shampoo when I don't have enough time to wash my hair, but I feel like this might dry my hair out a little.
Also, I do occasionally get problems with greasiness at the crown, (like it feels I haven't even washed the crown area sometimes) but it comes and goes, and it only started recently, and I haven't found out why and how to prevent this. I've heard it can be due to a hormonal imbalance or whatever or due to stress (which could be the problem in my case), but I dunno. I just give the crown area a really good hard scrub when I wash or co wash, like they do at the hairdressers (I only know this because I work at one) and it seems to help a little. At the moment this issue seems to have gone but I hope it doesn't come back.
(Sorry I'm in a rush to finish this post. If I think of anything else I'll add it later)
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by WretcheDollPosted 4 years, 11 months ago
I'd suggest switching to co-washing all the time. Instead of only on day 3. I was scared of not using shampoo at all too, but it really works. At first your hair will feel weighed down and greasy, but it's only until your body gets used to it. Your hair will eventually Thank you for it and you'll be able to go more days in between washes. Also a dry shampoo will help too on those days when the top is flat, and it'll give your scalp that refreshing feeling you get when you wash (use Only on roots). Washing your hair with cold water will make it shine, but if you're like me and hate cold showers, wash your hair before or after the shower, or at night. Wetting just your head with cold water is not as bad. Hope this helps!
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by Asha_Posted 4 years, 11 months ago
I recognize a lot in your post, @Serendipity. I used to wash my hair everyday because, well, showering without getting my hair wet felt weird, and if I wet my hair without washing it, it just felt, well, a greasy, dirty kind of wrong. I've been doing the same thing you've been (washing one day, showering without getting my hair wet the other), but honestly, if I could find a way to wash my hair everyday without it getting dry or color fading like crazy, I would totally sign up for it. Washing once every two days is my minimum, so I settle for tricks to keep my hair smooth and moisturized. I use a shampoo that has some oil in in (macadamia, I think), use a conditioner with silicones (I love my silicones) and after showering, spray on an oil especially for long hair that has an added UV-blocker. Once a week I replace the conditioner with a hair mask with protein. All this has kept my hair in good condition over the last couple of years (very little breakage or split ends, manageable frizz). I know I could 'train' my hair to go without washing much longer, but I don't think I could stand it, to be honest.
by Wicked_PixiePosted 4 years, 11 months ago
I am the opposite, I think I need to wash my hair more frequently lol I have been CO washing for years now, and my hair just doesn't get greasy any more, so i forget to wash it. I think I am washing every 7-10 days, but it is more like once every two weeks now. I think washing it more might help it be less tangly. I just hate washing my hair. It isn't so bad in summer, but in cold weather I hate having wet hair stragging down my back.
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by Asha_Posted 4 years, 11 months ago
Haha, once every two weeks would make me go nuts, lol. I love little differences like that :) Also, I don't think there's a right or wrong here, and everyone should do what feels good.
Posted 4 years, 11 months ago
I also had nice, silky straight hair as a child. I'm not sure if it is just because it's a lot longer or the actual hair changed, but it's now a somewhat frizzy wavy kind of thing. I found that changing how your hair dries (like, I used to dry it just straight down how I would wear it, but then I switched to putting it up in a braid or such to dry and it was a lot less frizzy. Now I just do whatever works at the time) or using a spray (not hairspray, I used a kid's frizz spray or something. It worked really well. I should go get some more of that...). I also have the weird, dirty hair after only getting wet. I've just been washing every day or every other day. I agree it isn't certainly isn't the best, but I don't think it's horrible if your hair isn't already too damaged (if it's bleached a lot, it's more of an issue). Mine is waist-length, so it's very old, but the only bits that are too damaged are the last few inches (which is mostly because I haven't trimmed it in a long time... I hate trimming my hair). Something that I might suggest is when washing use cold water and only shampoo your scalp area, not all of your hair. Since my hair is so long and thick, it's easy to only wash one area, but it may be harder for you. Then I put a lot of conditioner on the ends and middle. I don't tend to condition the scalp area because I feel it's unnecessary with the oil my scalp already makes and then I get greasy feeling up there anyway. So. Hopefully some of this helps. Otherwise, I'd say to just wash every day or every other day, use lots of conditioner, and don't worry too much about it.