How do you deal with depression/stress/feeling under the weatherby beetoPosted 6 years, 4 months ago
Just wondering what everyone does to handle the rough patches in life. We all go through things emotionally and physically, and everyone has a different way of coping.
Hoping this post can be a go to for people who aren't feeling 100%
Edit* I made this post because I am currently dealing with life's rollercoaster ride, as we all are, and I do not want others to feel alone. I do not have any special methods of coping and I hope to learn some through this thread while helping others along the way.
by katoxPosted 6 years, 4 months ago
It took me a long time to finally accept it but I handle it by remembering to take my medication. For the past ermm I think it is five years (all gets a bit fuzzy), I have been on a prescription for depression, but for years before that I refused to take anything as I didn't want to be "one of those people", dependant on drugs.
For me I can definitely tell it makes a difference; yes the highs might not to be so high, but the lows are most definitely not as low as they once were and when I skip a couple of days from it, like last weekend as I spent it with my boyfriend and forgot to take them with me (how silly) I can feel myself getting very anxious and twitchy.
As for rough patches I find it helps enormously to write a list which is something I'm not very good at (my best friend is a pro which always makes me kinda jealous), but when I do get my act together I write on it things I want to achieve that day. They make very silly reading e.g. get up, wash face, eat breakfast, get dressed, brush teeth etc but it cheers me up as I have something to look at and check off as the day progresses so I know I'm not an utter failure.
I also find doing word puzzles relaxing, like arrow words as I get satisfaction from filling in answers. Feeling certain textures/hearing specific sounds and smells evokes the same feeling, and provides comfort.
Sharing even when I can't express myself very well can also be beneficial, as it helps those I love (hopefully!) gain a better understanding, though when I am having a bit of an anxiety meltdown I need to have space as I can't get my thoughts/actions in order and do feel a bit like a tornado careering about with no regard for others (I can say horribly hurtful things).
Hugs Beeto, I hope you feel better soon. xxx
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by beetoPosted 6 years, 4 months ago
@katox you make me smile! Booooooop! I know how you feel in regards to having to be alone when under stress, happens to me too. I think at some times it is better to be alone, quite honestly. Having a good conversation with yourself about the issue at hand and how to resolve it/feel better about it can be really empowering.
A list is a good idea, reminds me of a friend of mine who told me she has a "good things" jar, which you use by writing a small sentence about nice things that happen each day (thats the catch, you have to write at least one thing each day) to put into the jar. When you feel under the weather you grab the jar and read some of the cute little notes you've written.
And of course, dying your hair. It is very therapeutic for me. I rarely wear makeup, so I like to do silly things with my hair to feel pretty and girly :-)
by PiscinePosted 6 years, 4 months ago
Such good things from @katox and especially good that she has shared something so personal that many people (myself included) struggle with. It's important to recognize when feeling a bit sad becomes something bigger.
Things that always help me are: -As said, keeping to a schedule and goal-setting (hey, even laundry is a big accomplishment sometimes!) -Getting some exercise and getting outdoors (or at least out of the house) if possible. -Have someone to talk to, even if it's light conversation. For me texting and chatting don't cut it, but if that helps, you can do that. -Having pleasant distractions, be it hobbies, movies, museums, pets, what-have-you. -Volunteering or doing some kind of service for someone else. -Eating healthy and cutting back on refined sugar. -Getting quality sleep and maintaining normal circadian rhythm.
Hopefully that helps a little! Feel better, beeto! You are awesome!
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by LoonPosted 6 years, 4 months ago
I hibernate with poetry and music (a lot). My greatest therapy is walking/hiking. I try to get out for at least an hour every other day which often turns into hours if the weather is nice and I always feel better afterward. Stretching, yoga, dancing and meditation also help.
by AndyaPosted 6 years, 4 months ago
Brightening the day of another person with balloon art.
Many other good methods already listed.
Watching or reading something that makes you laugh.
by heynadjaPosted 6 years, 4 months ago
@katox I can relate to this so much. I used to be one of those people too, but I'm off medication now for about a year so I really have to keep my mind straight at all times.
@beeto What helps for me is structure. Plan every thing you do, so that you're busy and you have some sort of control on how your day is going. The part of control, I think, is what a human being needs in times of riding an emotional roller coaster.
If you don't have a lot to do, keep yourself busy. I prefer meditating, working out and writing. It clears your mind and strengthens you at the same time, mental and physical (except for writing, that doesn't strengthen your body haha)
Also keep the people around you informed on how you feel and try to explain what's going on. Keeping people in the dark is something that I do a lot and it always gets me in to trouble, because they don't understand me and get upset with me.
And last but not least: self reflection. Really get to know yourself and rationalize overwhelming feelings , understand where everything is coming from and truly be okay with not feeling good all the time. It's okay and everything will turn out the way it's supposed to be.
by hannePosted 6 years, 4 months ago
Well much like @heynadja says I think it's important to let your closest friends/family members know if you're feeling down or stressed, I've found if I get mad at myself for something they can think I'm mad at them and it just doesn't work out at all. My depression has gotten so bad that I dropped out of school after christmas and except for when I have to go to work I find it exhausting to leave the house, but it helps to plan little things you find entertaining like a trip to the cinema. Also I'm a person that plan everything I do, which is helpful for stress and anxiety.
Also just relaxing and listening to music you love or reading a good book is great and can help you relax.
I hope you feel better soon.
by KayvachPosted 6 years, 4 months ago
I agree with katox about making a to do list. I usually do this when I am having a really busy day and I feel very anxious because of it. I don't really know how much this helps but if you get done what you need to, you can cross it off your list. Seeing your list before and after can be a bit calming since you no longer have as much to do. You may also feel accomplished if you are able to do whatever it is that you need to do. Basically, it's a good idea to set goals for yourself in order to keep yourself moving forward and clarify that you have a purpose.
Also, a lot of times when I am upset, I usually try to go for a run because I know I'll feel better afterwards. Otherwise, going for a walk and thinking about whatever it is that has been bugging you and attempting to let go of it might help.
If you are clinically depressed, I'm not sure if any of these things will really help you. Your best option would be some kind of therapy that will help you learn to cope with stress (cognitive-behavioral is preferred in my opinion). My suggestions were simply based off of some of the daily struggles that I have.
by DizzineaPosted 6 years, 4 months ago
I change my hair, go for walks, meditate, do relaxation tapes, eft ( emotional freedom tequniques) talk therapy, knitting spinning, or cuddle my cats, and focus on my grandmothers favorite quote, it won't always be like this
by MajokkoPosted 6 years, 4 months ago
Sometimes even watching my favourite comedian is enough to pull me out of the initial slip into a full-blown downer. I've been feeling pretty down as of late, due to a particular person and eventually managed to pull myself out of it by avoiding them and focusing on myself.
I write in a lockable diary I've bought. Drawing, I get so much joy out of drawing, Ukulele practice, apparently singing everyday is meant to be good for happiness too. Getting out and walking my dogs.
I follow blogs on facebook which share inspirational quotes and write them down in a separate note book, which is becoming full of positive messages. Quotes from musicians/public figures I find inspiring. I'm rather introverted so I feel better keeping myself to myself because being around people is really draining for me and when I'm upset I react the wrong way to people so it's best to keep away. Also this way I have energy I can reflect on myself properly.
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